first-time vibrator buyer guide

New to self-pleasure? You’re not alone.

Let’s take this gently, together.

At Amor, we know that your first step into intimate wellness can feel overwhelming—especially if you come from communities where sensuality is whispered about, avoided entirely, or laced with shame.

Whether you’re just beginning to explore your body, buying your first wellness tool, or unlearning the idea that pleasure is “bad”—this guide is for you.

This is your space to feel curious, safe, and completely free of judgment.

Step 1: Unlearning Shame

First, know this: there is nothing wrong with you.
You are not “dirty.” You are not “too much.”
The desire to feel, connect, explore, and rest in your own body is human; and beautiful.

Many of us were taught that pleasure is private, impure, or dangerous. At Amor, we believe it is sacred.

You are allowed to want softness.

You are allowed to be curious.

You are allowed to feel good—on your terms.

Step 2: Choosing Your First Product

Here’s how to find a tool that meets you where you are.

Ask yourself:
• Do I want something external, internal, or both?

• Do I prefer a gentle flutter or strong vibration?

• Am I exploring alone or with a partner?

• Am I nervous about size, shape, or sound?

• Have you ruled out clitoral pleasure? Have you tried using toys? (sometimes we need more than what we can achieve with our mouths/hands).

Our Current Offerings:
• The Rose: Perfect for external, gentle-to-intense clitoral stimulation. Great for beginners who want a compact, external toy focused on clitoral pleasure. 
• The Wand: Versatile and powerful. Ideal for gentle to intense clitoral stimulation as well as penetrative stimulation + or those craving stronger sensations. Great for those who are looking to explore both internal and external pleasure. 
• The Plug: A great intro to anal or partnered play. Slim, smooth, and app-controllable for slow exploration.

Step 3: Preparing for Your First Use

Think of this as setting the mood for you.

• Wash your product with warm water and unscented soap
• Find a quiet, comfortable space where you won’t be interrupted
• Use a body-safe, water-based lubricant (especially if you’re using the wand or plug)
• Take a few deep breaths—ground yourself
• Start slow. Touch without expectation. Explore without pressure.

This is about discovery, not performance.

Step 4: What If I Don’t Feel Anything?

That’s okay. Truly.

First experiences are often more emotional than physical. You might feel anxious, distracted, or disconnected—and that’s completely normal. The goal isn’t climax. It’s connection.

Try again another time. Explore what arouses your senses—touch, scent, sound, imagery. The more you explore without pressure, the more your body will learn to trust you.

Step 5: Aftercare

After pleasure, comes softness.

• Clean your product gently

• Store it in a dry, dust-free pouch or drawer

• Reflect, write, rest, or stretch—whatever brings you back to yourself

• There is no “right” way to feel—tender, proud, emotional, sleepy, clear; it’s all welcome

Cultural & Emotional Realities

If you were raised in a culture, religion, or household that taught you pleasure is “bad,” this experience may bring up guilt or confusion. It doesn’t mean something is wrong.

It means you’re growing.
You’re unlearning.
You’re returning to yourself.

There is nothing wrong with loving your body.
There is nothing wrong with exploring what brings you joy.

You’re not behind. You’re not broken.

You’re just beginning. And we are so glad you’re here.

Welcome to your first ritual—with love,

Amor